Jennifer's Grave is situated in the Oxted Parish Council Burial Ground. The location is grave 778 next to mine, which is 779, on her left hand side, as we slept together for 47 years. I am not clear in my mind [yet!] as to how her [and mine] memorial will be finalised and how it will look, but it will be very special, just as she was. I regret very much that the Parish Council have onerous regulations about how the graves and their memorials shall look [no headstones, size and no double graves] however many graves do not comply with these regulations and I am certain I will not comply either.
Below are photographs of my darlings grave [dated] and I will update them as required. Our grave is now updated to a double grave where we will lie side by side, in the same way we slept together for over 40 years, me always on her left.
Alas all real flowers and plants are eaten/detroyed by rabbits and birds within a few days, so I have resorted to making my own wreaths and floral tributes from silk flowers.
This is our new grave, incorporating Jens into a double side by side grave. the white sign on my side say's 'Waiting for Jim' just as my darling requested.
If you want to visit the location can be found via the slide show below. Our grave numbers are 778 [Jen] and 779 [me]
This screen show will give you an idea where my darlings grave is located. [all photographs taken in September]
This is my darlings grave, 2 years, 2 months, 2 days and 2 hours following her death.
I am told that 3 to 5 years, as a minimum, is how long the sorrow, sadness and regret lasts. To day I think about her all the time, as I do every day. Everything I do each day brings her into my head. in the moring, washing, cooking, cleaning, laundry, ironing, sitting in the car, shopping, when I turn off the light at night, in fact everythin I do she is with me in my head - it's not a happy life........