55 days of worry, then sadness and tears, then grieving and more tears
The time from the start of Jen's illness to her death is compleatly unknown to me apart from just 4 days that I remember prior to the doctor / consultant / tests / scans / diagnosis.
With the help of my children and friends I have now found out what happened every day through that terrible and very sad time.
2011
Tuesday 27th December : At home - Jen complained of 'tightness across her midrift'
Wednesday 28th December : Jen and Cassie went shopping in Croydon
Thursday 29th December : Jen visited the Doctor with 'tightness across her midrift' - "Nothing to worry about"
Friday 30th December : We bought a new Christmas tree together for next year. and went to P & N's for coffee
Saturday 31st December : Visited John Lewis together
2012
Sunday 1st January : First night with little sleep
Monday 2nd January : P & N came to us for morning coffee
Tuesday 3rd January : Home not eating much thought it was a virus
Wednesday 4th January : Not good she was exhausted
Thursday 5th January : Not good she was exhausted
Friday 6th January : Jen and I looked round an appartment for sale [we had to stop she was exhauted]
Saturday 7th January : Visit to Halfords to buy a bike for Brookes birthday Jen walked so slowly and was exhausted
Sunday 8th January : At home Not good she was exhausted
Monday 9th January : Went for coffee at P&N's left after less than an hour
Tuesday 10th January ; Sleep is now a serious problem, eating very little
Wednesday 11th January : As above - Totally exhausted
Thursday 12th January : Little sleep, little food, totally exhausted
Friday 13th January : Little sleep, little food, totally exhausted
Saturday 14th January : Little sleep, little food, totally exhausted
Sunday 15th January : Little sleep, little food, totally exhausted
Monday 16th January : Coffee at P&N's - Jen had to return home to bed after half an hour
Tuesday 17th January : Little sleep, little food, totally exhausted
Wednesday 18th January : Little sleep, little food, totally exhausted
Thursday 19th January : P&N came to ours for fish and chips, Jen could not get out of bed, she was too exhausted. Pam went in to see her. This was the last visit Pam made, she never saw Jen again.
Friday 20th January : Little sleep, little food, totally exhausted
Saturday 21st January : A brief visit to Darling Brookes 8th Birthday Party, she had to leave after half hour, could hardly walk to the car
Sunday 22nd January : at home, Little sleep, little food, totally exhausted
Monday 23rd January : at home, Little sleep, little food, totally exhausted
Tuesday 24th January : Jen had her first scan today
Wednesday 25th January : Jen had her first and last blood test today
Thursday 26th January : at home, Little sleep, little food, totally exhausted
Friday 27th January : Fast track letter for appointment arrived - CANCER
Saturday 28th January : Collected her scan and bloodtest results - Jen exhausted
Sunday 29th January : I read the GPs scan and blood test report to her - this was the one and only day she cried and I cried about her fate.
Monday 30th January : Very sad day, we both hoped for a cure
Tuesday 31st January : For the first time we spoke in detail about death
Wednesday 1st February : Jens 1st Appointment with the Consultant
Thursday 2nd February : Jens full MIR scan
Friday 3rd February : In bed, no food, just water and a little Complan
Saturday 4th February : In bed, no food, just water and a little Complan
Sunday 5th February : In bed, no food, just water and a little Complan
Monday 6th February : In bed, no food, just water and a little Complan
Tuesday 7th February : The Consultant gave us his detailed and horrific diagnosis at the hospital [see Jenny's last days]
Wednesday 8th February : Every day from now on we spoke about everything including my primises and her funeral arrangements in detail
Thursday 9th February : Lots of medical stuff arrived today.
Friday 10 th February : The Nurses from St Cathrines started to visit from today
Saturday 11th February ; Darling Jen never left her[our] bed again
Sunday 12th February : Darling Jen in bed with wonderful support from the nurses
Monday 13th February : 1st visit of Rev Wallace - Jen made the arrangments with her for her funeral service [from her bed]
Tuesday 14th February : We started Jens goodbye letter to Brooke
Wednesday 15th February : 2nd visit of Rev Wallace to finalise the arrangements
Thursday 16th February : Doreen [Jens sister] visited to day and said goodbye forever
Friday 17th February : In bed all the time exhaused and often sleeping - regular nurse visits
Saturday 18th February : In bed all the time exhaused and often sleeping - regular nurse visits
Sunday 19th February : In bed all the time exhaused and often sleeping - regular nurse visits. The nurse said it would now be a matter of days - I did not believe it.
Monday 20th February : In bed all the time exhaused and often sleeping - regular nurse visits
Tuesday 21st February 12.28 pm: My darling precious died. I was with her and holding her.
See Jens last days page from the menu